I’ve just crossed the line. From curious, empowering, questioning coach to encourage self directed learning to directive, threatening and, dare I admit it, exasperated manager of someone else’s learning.
And what has triggered this change of tactic (ha who am I kidding – I blundered in to it having exhausted all other approaches)? My teenage son, currently revising (or not) for exams.
It’s making me reflect though about myself as a coach, leader and a parent and wondering:
1. when do we need to get directive
2. have I really been such a good coach to date with him?
Getting directive for short term goals sometimes does feel like a necessity but in the long term I know this micro-managing approach will be counter-productive. At some point my son does need to manage his own goal setting, learning and rewards but at the moment I think I’ve more chance of getting blood out of a stone.
And on being a good coach – time to hang up my coaching hat when it comes to my son and concentrate on being mum, threats and all.